Granted, it's common practice for military men to wear their uniforms as formal wear, and for the couple to exit through a tunnel of swords. To my eye, this looks normal, attractive even. Sam looks incredibly handsome in his uniform. Yet when I think about it the whole notion of military attire and ceremony at one's wedding seems odd. I have a Phd. Shall I wear my cap and gown to our wedding with banners from my university draped along the cathedral walls? People would laugh. I would be calling attention to my professional achievements and affilitations rather than our union.
Why don't we see ridiculousness in the military's presence at weddings? What is special about the military that it is acceptable for it to be everywhere, including the most intimate personal rites of passage?
Military ritual and schedules dictate so much in my life with Sam already, including other important events such as our post-deployment reunions and the timing of our family planning. Why would we also let them influence our wedding?
Even odder is the fact that it is often civilians who wish for Sam to be decked out in military garb at our ceremony. He would rather not be. As per my earlier rant, "Thank you for your service," it is not just the military apparatus but the public who loves military symbolism and reinforces the notion of service members as special and set apart.